When you mention grief and loss many people immediately
think of the five stages. This was Elisabeth
Kubler-Ross' claim to fame and also her curse.
There was so much misunderstanding about these five stage that she spent
much of her time re-explaining her original premise.
On Grief and Grieving was written
during the time that Elisabeth was anticipating her own death and in fact she
died before the book was published.
David Kessler, who had worked with her on a previous book, had the privilege
to again co-author a book with Elisabeth. He was present at Elisabeth's death
and was profoundly affected by her death and her life.
The five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining,
depression, and acceptance are not a linear progression as explained by
Kubler-Ross and Kessler. The stages
merely are a means to help explain the process of grief but not meant to be
used as a blueprint for everyone. The authors pointed out that grief is
individual and messy. People have to be supported where they are in their
grieving process not by some arbitrary time-table.
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