Schiff talks about taking small, positive steps even during
the beginning stages of grief. Schiff gives examples for these small steps such
as cleaning, cooking, or putting on make-up. She cautions that the steps will
naturally cause pain, and the individual may not feel like attempting anything
else for a period afterwards, but that done in small doses it does move the
person forward in a positive manner.
Schiff's book ends with hope for the bereaved parent that there
is a way through the sorrow. She notes that the bereaved parent no longer fears
the unknown because they have faced the worst and survived. I can relate to her
statement that the thought of living for any length of time after the death of
my son was an awful thought. However, just like Schiff, as the years have gone
my life has moved forward and I have managed to move through the seemingly
unendurable pain of the beginning stages of grief to a time when there can be
laughter and expectations of future events again.
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